Sex is Very Good

Summary of Chapter 3

God said it was not good for man to be alone. So He made a woman. Took a rib, shaped it, brought her to the man. The man saw her and knew. Bone of my bones, flesh of my flesh. They were made for each other. They became one flesh.

Sex is the engine of dominion. That’s the truth. It drives man to fill the earth, to take hold of what God has given, to rule. Adam was made to subdue, Eve to fill. But they shared the work. The command was for both. Be fruitful. Multiply. Subdue the earth.

A man feels it in his bones. The need to conquer, to build, to leave something behind. It’s not shameful. It’s how God made him. His drive for sex is part of that. Not just to satisfy desire, but to create life. To form families. To build households.

The church has often been afraid of this. Afraid of the fire. But fire isn’t the problem. It’s where you put it. Uncontrolled, it burns. Controlled, it warms, it cooks, it drives engines. Sex is the same. In the wrong place, it destroys. In the right place, it builds worlds.

Men are drawn to women because of what they can create together. The curve of a hip, the softness of skin, the promise of life. It’s not dirty. It’s holy. God made it that way.

Sex pulls a man out of himself. Makes him more than he is alone. Drives him to take responsibility, to lead, to protect, to provide. A man and a woman together create not just children but households—the heart of culture, the seed of nations.

Households grow. Families become clans. Clans become cities. Cities become nations. Dominion spreads. It all starts with a man and a woman. It all starts with the fire God put in them.

Sex is the engine of dominion. That’s why it matters. That’s why it’s powerful. That’s why Satan hates it. Because it’s the spark that lights the world.

Questions for Reflection

How does thinking of sex as the "engine of dominion" change the way you see its purpose beyond just desire or pleasure?

How have your views on sex been shaped by culture or church, and how does this idea challenge or support those views?

How does seeing families as the start of culture and nations affect how you think about your role at home, at work, and in your community?