Toxic Sexuality
Summary of Chapter 6
Men always serve someone. They always glorify a name. It’s either their own, which serves the devil, or God’s. There’s no middle ground. Since the fall, the world has been at war. Those who serve God clash with those who serve Satan. Their paths can’t run together.
This started with Cain and Abel. Cain was proud, angry when God didn’t care for his offering. Abel was humble, faithful. He gave God what pleased Him. Cain killed him out of spite. That murder was the first battle in a war still raging. Abel’s faith made him righteous. Cain's pride led to bloodshed. These two lines—the faithful and the faithless—have always been at odds.
Cain's children built cities. They forged tools, crafted instruments. They shaped the world, but not for God’s glory. They glorified themselves. Cain named his city after his son, not after the God who gave him life. Babel, Babylon—these places rose from the same spirit. Man’s pride. Man’s name. But cities aren’t the problem. The problem is the heart that builds them for vanity.
Cain’s line grew darker. Violence became normal. Lamech boasted of killing a boy, proud of his strength, blind to his sin. Marriage, too, was twisted. God gave Adam one wife. Lamech took two. Sin crept into every corner of life. By Noah’s time, the earth was corrupt, full of violence. But Noah found grace. He stood apart.
This isn’t ancient history. It’s now. Men still chase their own glory. They dominate without honor. They twist strength into cruelty. Some call it “toxic masculinity,” but the real problem isn’t masculinity. It’s sin. Pride, violence, rebellion against God—that’s the root.
But it’s not just men. The serpent has daughters, too.
Toxic femininity exists, though few dare name it. It’s rebellion against God’s design for women. While men drift into passivity or tyranny, women grasp for control, rejecting the roles God gave them. Proverbs warns of the “loud woman,” not for her volume but her heart. She refuses to be still, refuses to submit. She tears down her house with her own hands.
When men won’t lead and women won’t follow, society crumbles. It’s not just promiscuity. It’s pride, immodesty, defiance. Even churches make excuses for it, calling it empowerment. But rebellion wears many disguises.
Satan is subtle. He doesn’t always shout. Sometimes he whispers. He dresses sin as freedom, pride as self-expression. But the cure hasn’t changed: faith in God, obedience to His Word, and homes built on His truth.
The war between the serpent’s seed and the woman’s seed isn’t over. But the outcome is certain. Christ has crushed the serpent’s head. His people live for His glory, not their own.
Questions for Reflection
Whose name am I truly glorifying in my daily life—God's or my own?
Consider how your actions, decisions, and ambitions reflect the heart of your worship.
How do pride and rebellion subtly manifest in my relationships and responsibilities?
Reflect on areas where sin may be disguised as self-reliance, autonomy, or personal freedom.
Am I building my life on God’s truth, or am I unknowingly influenced by the values of a world in rebellion against Him?
Examine your priorities, habits, and commitments to see if they align with faith and obedience to God’s design.